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CONFIDENCE & GROWTH: Owning Your Space (Esteem: Knowing You’re WorthyAF)
You’ve done the work, and now it’s time to own your damn worth. No more second-guessing yourself. No more apologizing for taking up space. No more playing small just to keep other people comfortable.You’re in the phase of integration; learning to trust your boundaries, show up unapologetically, and stop doubting your voice. Yes, imposter syndrome still creeps in. When that voice shows up, recognize it for what it is—a survival response, not the truth. Call it out, name it, and choose to act anyway.Confidence is when you show up even when you doubt yourself. You are already the person you’re trying to become. Every time you honor your boundaries, trust your voice, or take up space, you prove that to yourself. And yes, not everyone will celebrate this version of you, and that’s okay. The people who truly belong in your life won’t ask you to shrink for their comfort.At first, confidence might feel uncomfortable, like you’re wearing new shoes that haven’t been broken in yet. Keep walking. Eventually, this power will feel like home.
Healing Stage: You’re stepping into your power, but self-doubt still creeps in.
You’ve come so far, but you still second-guess yourself. You know you’re capable, but old wounds still whisper, “What if I’m not enough?”
🔹 You struggle with imposter syndrome, even though you’re a badass.
🔹 You want to take up space, but fear still lingers.
🔹 You feel driven by purpose but sometimes doubt yourself.
I know this feeling well. You’ve outgrown your past, but part of you is still scared to fully own who you are.
Validation: You are already enough. You are worthy. And you don’t need to prove it to anyone.
Actionable Steps: What You Need Right Now
✨Call out imposter syndrome for what it is: Bullshit. It’s not a fact; it’s a fear response.
✨Take up space unapologetically: Don’t shrink yourself to make others comfortable.
✨Celebrate your wins, even the small ones. Confidence isn’t a switch, it’s a muscle make sure to strengthen it daily.
Content Warning: Personal Reflections Ahead
The following section contains personal insights and experiences related to healing and trauma. While shared with the intention of fostering connection and understanding, some content may evoke strong emotions. Please ensure you're in a comfortable and safe space before proceeding. Remember, it's okay to pause, take a break, or seek support as needed.
Personal Note: There’s no single moment where confidence just clicks into place. It’s built over time, through experiences that challenge you, push you, and sometimes, break you. I’ve had to work on my confidence more than once, because life has a way of shaking even the strongest foundation.Confidence isn’t a fixed state. Different parts of your life can be in different stages at the same time. My relationship with my children feels secure; I’ve worked hard to raise them as ‘living room kids,’ meaning they feel safe enough to take up space and be themselves. But at work? Confidence wasn’t always easy, especially when dealing with terrible managers, toxic work environments, or patronizing clientele. Over time, I’ve learned that confidence isn’t something you either have or don’t, it’s something you build. And I’ve worked to build mine in every area of my life.I’ve strengthened my parenting. I’ve made myself an asset in my career by refining my organizational, communication, and efficiency skills. I’ve worked on loving myself through daily habits, such as: positive self-talk, acknowledging my progress, giving myself grace when I fall short, setting and achieving goals, eating healthy, and getting enough sleep. But I’ve also struggled. I’ve never been one to compare myself to others, but when I found out that past partners were looking elsewhere for affection, it shook me. Betrayal trauma has a way of making you question yourself even when you know the problem wasn’t yours to begin with. It wasn’t about whether I was enough, it was about learning that my worth is not defined by someone else’s inability to value me.“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not in the branch, but in her wings.” My therapist shared this quote with me, and it completely changed how I manage my anxiety and the unrealistic expectations I place on myself.Confidence isn’t about never doubting yourself; it’s about choosing to trust yourself anyway. It’s about remembering that no one else’s actions, opinions, or approval define your worth. And if you’re still struggling with that? That’s okay. I have, too. Just don’t stop growing.
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